| health care exclusion? |
[Nov. 10th, 2009|08:32 pm] |
for those in the us or international folks who are particularly savvy about us issues:
i have heard from a few people about trans women's health care being specifically excluded from the health care reform bill that passed in the house this weekend. does anyone know anything about it? i've looked, but haven't been able to find any articles or posts that actually cite where in the bill this is. i've also tried looking in the actual text of the thing, but it's like 2,000 pages of vague bullshit that i just can't bring myself to wade through.
if anyone has any information, that'd be awesome. thanks. |
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| TransAnxiety |
[Nov. 10th, 2009|01:24 am] |
So. When I first moved to Vancouver from my crappy, closed minded city, I had kind of arrived on the false impression that maybe my anxiety wouldn't make a return here. Although I should have known that, having dealt with anxiety and depression since I was 13, and I am about to turn 22 next month, that simply moving to a "more open minded" area wouldn't eliminate the anxiety and depression forever. It was completely fine for the first few months, but I've completely unraveled again, and I don't have a clue what triggered it. Now all of a sudden, I'm suicidal every day again, and I can't get on the mass-transit system without having a mild heart attack over whether or not everyone in the vehicle is judging my soul to death. Its like I'm petrified to my seat every time.
I mentioned it to my doctor today when I went in for my Spiro refill. Apparently now I'm a candidate for free counseling. I asked if I would still need to talk to a gender therapist for it to count towards hours clocked towards getting approved for SRS, and she said no. It'll all count towards everything I'm working for, I just need to be approved by a psychiatrist when I'm going for the actual SRS (which is covered by health care, bless their souls). Thankfully, there are several that can approve me here instead of just the one Alberta had. Which is marvelous, because to be frank, I'm not a big fan of a therapist telling me I can or can not make the decision for myself anyway at $200 an hour. I would like to applaud the health care system for actually caring about my well-being here. Calgary will bleed you dry for as much as they can get. In my opinion anyway. Its nice to know I really do have access to help and progress when I'm poor and isolated.
Although as much as I love the Three Bridges Clinic for all of these things, I do wish they'd stop sticking me with a different student doctor every time I go in. Just felt like sharing this. It's been a really hard couple of weeks. Maybe I need to just accept that I do need more trans oriented friends, because my cisgendered friends, accepting as they are, just don't seem to understand or connect with me on that level of my life. So that's probably a large part of the reason for my feeling of isolation and a breeding ground for feelings of not being wanted.
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| why? |
[Nov. 9th, 2009|09:02 pm] |
so yeah i know i am just starting the process but heels make me feel pretty. |
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| Jobs in England? |
[Nov. 9th, 2009|08:21 pm] |
Is anyone here or does anyone know of anywhere Trans friendly in the Crew/Holmes Chapel area of England that is hiring. Lilly's partner (Trinity) is desperately looking for a full time job and has been having no luck. Trinity is great amazing with computers and has done IT work, that would be preferred but anything help will be most appreciated.
Thank you so very much for taking the time to read this. We are running out of ideas.
Love,
~Lilly |
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| (no subject) |
[Nov. 9th, 2009|11:06 am] |
Hey guys.. I need a shoulder.
I'm Mike, im 24. I'm living in orlando. I'm poor. I'm off my T. I dont have any docs down here. I'm lightyears away from surgery. I'm single. And I feel like I'm living in a shithole.
I guess what I'm saying is I need friends. I literally only know the people I work with and they basically all learned about me being trans right off the bat. I'm way more solitary than I'd like and I think its gone something to do with it. I'm reeling a bit after a girl told me I'm not her type because I cant stop reading that to mean "I dont like girls who pretend to be guys." I just havent really found a place to fit here and it just seems like everythings coming apart at the seams.
A few guys contacted me saying theyre in orlando too off of FTMVanity, but I lost their emails. I guess I'm looking for someone to hangout with. Someone to talk to. It seems like its impossible to make friends without college to help the process.
I'm just having a crappy day and dysphorias taking advantage of it, I'm stuck in a whirlwind, in my apartment, which feels like doom.
sigh. I dont even know what I'm asking for. Attention maybe? |
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| How many ways to become infertile? |
[Nov. 9th, 2009|06:30 am] |
I know of the surgeries they do which can make anyone infertile. But there's ways other than surgery isn't there? I'm positive I'm not the only one who gets gender dysphoria from likely being fertile. If I can completely lose my fertility my self esteem will be a LOT higher. So with surgery out of the picture how many ways can someone become completely infertile, and how safe are all these said methods? What about some combined ways to become infertile? So far I've heard about having cellphones in ones pocket, certain types of medication, lots of hot showers, high amounts of caffeine, lack of sunlight /etc/, but it's really complicated there may have been things I didn't hear about yet?
Also want to hear about ways for both mtf, and ftm infertility as I'm positive there's other people in the same situation here. |
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| Geek or not? |
[Nov. 8th, 2009|03:48 pm] |
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Does organizing my nonfiction books by their Library of Congress classification make me a geek? |
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| Is sexual orientation an oppressive cisgender concept? [Controversial] warning. |
[Nov. 8th, 2009|07:46 am] |
I mean it just seems so binary. You can't be a true heterosexual, or a true heterosexual if you do not have an opposite to your gender. The lucky ones amongst us get to become full men, or full women one day. A lot of the rest of us are forced to live as not fully either gender. Some of us who can't transition are thrown into lifelong androgyny. Some of us non-transitioners can't truly be heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual because we don't have a purely opposite gender to compare to. Are these labels, oppressive ones made for people who get to live on the binary spectrum? I feel left out, and frustrated whenever I hear people mention their sexual orientation. I get reminded that physical femininity mixed with physical masculinity mixed with a feminine personality makes me neither gender in a sense. Then I feel left out because I don't have an opposite to claim a sexual orientation.
TLDR: Are sexual orientations extremely binary biased thus oppressive to non-binary people?
Edit: Removed the term "pure" as it has bad undertones. |
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| Transgender in Canadian Military |
[Nov. 8th, 2009|02:15 am] |
hey guys, I have the opportunity to write an article for "This Magazine," a Canadian national magazine.
I want to write a feature on transfolk in the Canadian forces and this means I need a character. If anyone is in Toronto or the surrounding area and is interested in making their story known, please message me!
Thanks so much! |
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| Question |
[Nov. 8th, 2009|01:39 am] |
I am getting ready to move to a new state and town in the next year or so. When I go I am hoping to introduce myself from the get go as female. I understand that this will probably scare some people away but then again those are not the people I would want to get to know anyway right? I guess my question is, is it a good idea to be upfront with new people right away about being trans or is it likely to isolate me from the community before they have a chance to accept me? |
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| (no subject) |
[Nov. 7th, 2009|11:29 pm] |
This is who I wish I could be sometimes.
Was there a better, kinder, more loving human being in recent memory other than Fred Rogers?
Maybe the Dalai Lama. A handful of others, I imagine.
I'm sure there are lots of people like Fred Rogers or the Dalai Lama out there who aren't well-known and go about their day being kind, loving, and supporting.
How does one get to be a Fred Rogers without faith?
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| Help me i'm too hairy :( |
[Nov. 7th, 2009|02:56 pm] |
"Help....help...help" (imagine the voice trailing off for dramatic affect)...
Please tell me if anyone has had any personal experience regarding what can be done with way too much body hair (*frowns*).
I am trapped in here! This body I have is so hairy (almost I swear like a guerilla). What has worked for any of my sisters out there?? I am trying laser now...but I heard it isn't permanent and will be starting hormones soon, I heard they help.
So please help me. If any of you can share what helped as you were starting MTF transition I would be forever grateful.
☆¸.·´¸.·*´¨) ¸.·*¨) (.·´ (¸.·`★*☆*★* Love DeeDee |
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| Conflicted |
[Nov. 6th, 2009|12:19 pm] |
I am just so conflicted. I know meeting with my new therapist here in like a week will help but I was hoping I could maybe get some 'help' before then. Just wondering if anyone else felt like I do and where they are now. I identity more as a guy. It just feels natural and better to me. I feel most comfortable dressed like a guy and I like it when I am mistaken for one. However, I feel like I am betraying someone if I get rid of all of my femininity. I hate dressing in revealing clothing but got use to it because I thought that is what my husband wanted. I will admit he looks at me differently when I do and I like that look but the discomfort I feel in those clothes is just so great, especially now that I am being honest with myself. So, anyways, kinda to my point, I have wanted a breast reduction since they kept growing (2 kids does that to ya). But now I am wondering should I just reduce them or get rid of them since the cost is about the same for both. But I feel bad if I completely get rid of them because I feel like I can't be feminine for my husband then yet I know he doesn't want me doing that. Anyone else have this kind of internal conflict happen? What did you decide? |
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| Interview |
[Nov. 6th, 2009|11:25 am] |
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I'm going for an interview in 2 hours...Wish me luck! |
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